Experts unravel the cause of alexithymia
They don’t know what happiness is, they don’t feel sad, and they rarely get angry.
This strange phenomenon is increasingly destroying psychologists.
According to recent estimates, about one in seven people suffer from this misfortune.
”How do I describe it?
I felt as if there was a stone in my stomach.
My head hurts all the time.
“When Peter recalled a fierce conflict with his father, he explained his feelings in this way.
“Think about it. Did he intentionally hurt you?
Are you angry with him?
“A psychotherapist asked him.
Peter frowned, “I don’t know.
How do you understand ‘angry’?
“He can’t tell how he feels. Peter has been undergoing such psychotherapy in recent weeks.
He must learn what is right for others: knowing how he feels.
When Peter talked about his own mother who died prematurely, he could not hear words such as “sadness”.
But when Peter was embarrassed, he also showed the characteristics of ordinary people: blushing, stuttering, cold sweat.
But when others asked him how he felt, he couldn’t explain himself.
He just can’t express his feelings in words.
According to recent estimates, one in seven people meets the criteria for this type of mental illness called “alexia.”
Men may develop the disease more than the average in the population.
They are outstanding, indifferent, closed or ruthless.
At the same time, many patients also worry about their health: when their heart suddenly beats suddenly and their stomach starts to hurt, they will ask themselves what is wrong.
Not surprisingly, because they know nothing about the cause—feelings—of these reactions on their bodies.
There will only be tears, not words, that hurt Peter most: his relationship with others will always be bleak.
For him, building friendships with others is beyond sight.
As long as his conversations with others involve hobbies, enthusiasm, or distrust, he is at a loss.
Only very rarely, when he can no longer afford to be nervous, he will burst into tears, otherwise he will be irresistible.
At this point, no one else knew what had been saved in Peter’s heart for a long time.
Scientists studying the human brain have only begun research on this phenomenon a few years ago: our emotions come from the frontal lobe deep in the brain.
In order to perceive sensation, the anterior cortex of the brain must first analyze the information transmitted from the frontal lobe.
A research team at the Institute of Mutualiste Montsouris in Paris, France found that in patients with “lexithymia”, the two areas mentioned above are not sufficiently communicating information.
They guessed that it was probably for this reason that they couldn’t tell how they felt.
Because of the factors that cause “alexithymia,” the bane may be bought as early as the patient’s childhood.
Babies cannot yet associate their emotions with concepts such as “frightened” or “happy”; they can only first feel these physically.
In order to feel a name in the baby’s learning process, the people involved will help the decisive role.
Mom will ask the child: “Are you happy?
“It will also comfort and say,” Don’t be sad . “or scold:” Don’t be so angry! ”
“Moms each have a name for their emotions, and children will be able to distinguish emotions more easily in the future. For Maurice Corcos, a psychologist at the Paris Multicultural Institute, early communication between mothers and children played a significant role in the establishment of an “emotional database”.
In the “emotion database”, each feeling is put together with the corresponding description of the feeling.
If the child’s parents also suffer from “alympathy,” depression, or capricious personality, there is a danger that parents will explain poorly the child’s emotions.
Then the child lacks the vocabulary necessary to describe his feelings.
Until they reach adulthood, they will experience physical feelings like children, but will not be able to say their own feelings.
Learning to emotionally reshape the brain A child’s brain has a lot of remaining nerve bonds.
Neural bonds correspond to the transmission of information between nerve cells.
When we were young, we learned to build an emotional “replacement”. By linking the concept of emotions to physical sensations, the neural bonds in the brain’s rebates will be strengthened.
The unused neural bonds are gradually eliminated.
In the end, only the continuously activated nerve bonds remain.
Cerebral rebate folds back the “high axis” of the “major axis” between the frontal lobe and the forebrain.
In addition to treatment through “playing emotions”, patients with “alexia” are more likely to become addicted than the general population.
Some drugs, such as cocaine, can cause profound sensations-perhaps because it strengthens the connection between the frontal lobe and the precortex of the brain so extreme that even patients with “alexia” can absorb emotional richness.
How to help these patients?
Ordinary psychotherapeutics are powerless because they are in need of language to exchange thoughts and emotions between therapist and patient.
What can a psychotherapist do if the patient himself cannot understand his feelings?
“Alexithymia” has long been incurable.
Today, various forms of group therapy have become one of the most effective treatments.
For example, patients can practice performing their emotions with gestures.
At the beginning, the patient even uses certain exaggerated and dramatic actions.
When they are angry, they tighten their elbow muscles and squeeze their hands into fists.
With shortened exercises, patients are able to fix more and more feelings and corresponding gestures together.
If a healthy person is combined with a patient with “lexithymia”, letting a healthy person describe their feelings in a typical situation is also an effective therapy.
From healthy people, patients can learn something behind their physical feelings.
Linking feelings to color or scenery can also help patients learn to express their feelings.
The process is like acknowledging that Grape’s research on “alympathy” shows that when a person is a child, it must learn to feel consciously.
We can illustrate this process with how to learn to discern grapes.
For a layman, the professional vocabulary used to describe grapes is completely meaningless.
But as long as he slowly learns and associates the specialized vocabulary describing the different characteristics of grapes with the corresponding pictures, anyone can discover the mystery.