Family therapy for children withdrawing behavior

Family therapy for children withdrawing behavior

Target: Kindergarten children, 6 years old.

According to the child’s mother, the child was nervous when interacting with strangers and had a good fight with classmates.

In the past two months, she blinked, tilted her head, and recently made a strange noise in her throat.


Personal information: The child is the only child with normal development.

Lived with grandparents before 4 years old.

When he entered kindergarten, he was 2 years old. He ran away without listening to his teacher and was under the care of his teacher. After that, his guts became smaller and smaller, and he dared not be at home.

Lived with her mother when she was 4 years old (father was abroad).

His mother was busy with her work, and often lost her temper with her children.

The child also has a fear of the teacher. He usually does not take the initiative to play with the children. When playing, he often fights and fights.

In the past two months, it was found that the child blinked and tilted his head. He could control it when he stopped it, but he still couldn’t change it. Recently, he not only squeezed his eyes, tilted his head, but also made a strange sound in his throat.

So his mother took him for help.


Case analysis: The child lived with his parents before the age of 4 and lacked parental love.

Know from his mother’s statement that his grandparents were overprotective.

The kindergarten teacher adopted a care-giving method here, and did not treat the children with friendliness, and his personality was suppressed.

Although he lived with his mother after the age of 4, his parents had some morbid personalities, and his father had been away for a long time.

The mother lacked a sense of security, had a significant ambivalence in looking at the problem, and was too striving for perfection.

I always think that the child’s personality is unhealthy, and he cares too much about the child’s personality, pointing and pointing, but his opinion cannot be consistent.

In addition, she transferred her insecurities to the child, always worrying about the child’s safety and health, and thus over-protected.

It makes children lack of sense of security, self-confidence, and will not interact with children.

The children’s behaviors such as blinking, tilting their heads, and making strange noises in their throats are caused by scare based on the imperfect development of cerebral cortex function.

Adult restraint is not only ineffective, it is a reinforcement.


The treatment analyzes the family structure, and the mothers concerned jointly establish a family treatment plan.

(At the same time, his mother is recommended to undergo a stage of psychotherapy.

In the first stage, the mother learns to accept the child, even if the child’s thinking is wrong, so that the child can express the true thoughts in his heart.

At the same time, mothers must learn to make friends with their children and learn to be honest with each other so that there can be communication.

It is recommended that parents do not need to pay much attention to their children’s words and deeds, and do not need to explain too much truth. Children need acceptance and trust.

At present, the child has some behavioral disorders, and must not be given mental stimulation.

  In the second stage, encourage the child. Once he is found to have improved, give encouragement and praise to strengthen the child’s behavior and gradually develop self-confidence.

  The third stage can be carried out at the same time as the first two stages. Take your children out to participate in social activities. Encourage your children to play more with their children of the same age. Let everything go naturally and give the children a space to grow independently.

  After 2 months, the strange sounds in the throat of the child disappeared, and the rest of the symptoms were reduced.


Children who grow up in a sick family will not be healthy.

Therefore, the treatment is mainly macro-oriented, that is, the mother is recommended to do a stage of psychological treatment first.

Guidance during treatment to help the mother communicate with the child, establish a good family structure, and improve parent-child relationships.

At the same time, communicate with the teacher, let the teacher be friendly to the children, and pay attention to the fact that the children get along with the children at school, and encourage them to cooperate with the children.The child’s character will gradually improve.